the four LOVES

JT and I just finished reading C.S. Lewis’ The Four Loves. Quite frankly we both found it hard to get through. But we made it! 🙂 One of our new year’s resolutions was to read 3 books together this year. Down with#1! But this quote about an analogy of love  from the last chapter really stuck out to me:

“A garden is a good thing but that is not the sort of goodness it has. It will remain a garden, as distinct from a wilderness, only if someone does all these things to it. It’s real glory is quite a different kind. The very fact that it needs constant weeding and pruning bears witness to that glory…”

C.S. Lewis in The Four Loves


He used this metaphor in talking about how true love takes work. It can be good. It can be beautiful. But it will not remain a selfless love without the help of God and constant diligence to work at it.

This makes me think of my marriage… JT and I fell in love when we were both 20. In today’s society, the world tells us that if it’s real love it will last forever as this flighty, over the moon, perfect thing. This is SO not true. True love takes work. It takes time. It takes faith. Some days I don’t feel like loving this boy who farts, burps, is smelly, i mean, com’on, he’s a boy. :-p Some days I know he doesn’t feel like loving me because I can be moody and ask him to clean something way too many times in a fifteen minute period… 🙂 ha. But that vow we made on our wedding day, means to us that we’re going to work our darndest on love each other even when we don’t feel like it. True love is work. But it is beautiful work. Just like that garden in C.S. Lewis’ book.


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