to the people who say, “good for him”

to those people, i say, “no, i’m sorry, but you’re wrong.”

it’s not good for him.

that is a stupid thing to say, to say to the family, to say to the parents, just to say.

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” And he said, “There was a man who had two sons. 12 And the younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me the share of property that is coming to me.’ And he divided his property between them. 13 Not many days later, the younger son gathered all he had and took a journey into a far country, and there he squandered his property in reckless living.” Luke 15:11-13

the day after the son took his inheritance and headed off into the world, do you think the father rejoiced? do you think when the father told his friends about his son taking his inheritance and going off into the world to squander and spend it, did they say, “well, good for him. glad he’s getting out into the world and discovering himself.”

i don’t think so.

i think the father mourned his son. he missed him of course! he wanted him to come home. he stood on that porch and waited every morning and evening to see if he would come home.

of course, everyone knows the rest of the story. the son runs out of money. tries to make money any way he can.  finally he realizes that he has no dignity left and needs to go home, and beg to work there. but the father accepts him back with open arms! {and there’s a brother in the story…which is for another day.} Luke 15:11-32

anyway. what do you think you say to the parents of the son who has walked away? who is out “discovering himself”?

well, you don’t say, “good for him.”

they are heartbroken. they are curious about what he’s really thinking. they love him and miss him. they are worried for him. because they know, if he’s living out of the current mindset of “YOLO- you only live once” it is a reckless way to live.

And when he had spent everything, a severe famine arose in that country, and he began to be in need. So he went and hired himself out to one of the citizens of that country, who sent him into his fields to feed pigs. And he was longing to be fed with the pods that the pigs ate, and no one gave him anything. Luke 15:14-16

sooner or later he will come to realize that his home, his life, his purpose isn’t to only live once to the fullest, reckless way you WANT or you can. and that moment may meet him in a pig’s pen or in a much deeper, darker place.

and really, that moment. that second of epiphany, is what the parents mourn and worry for. no one wants their child to experience that.



maybe he has to.

what is he out there looking for? what does he expect to find?

he won’t find it out there. he won’t experience all of life’s greatest joys and all that life has to offer out there. he won’t find purpose or meaning in the most beautiful sunset or the perfect city to reside in or the most glorious mountain to climb. nope, just like the son realizes, that there is something in his heart calling him to home, even if he could just be a servant, it’s calling his name. nope, he won’t find it OUT THERE.

because he’s out there looking for fulfillment. for  joy. really,  for heaven.

we were made for joy, fulfillment, for heaven. our home is in heaven. our home is with the GLORY and MAJESTY of God. {talk about ultimate joy and peace and hope!} we weren’t made for this world. we weren’t made for the purpose of our life to be the daily grind of 8-5 – that he seems to be rebelling against. life isn’t about that.

life is about glorifying God through our obedience to Him. through having a relationship with the One who loves us more than anyone or anything. that is where you really find HOME. where your heart will really be full. we were made for more then what this world has to offer.

“You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” Psalm 16:11

 “So then you are no longer strangers and aliens, but you are fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God,…” Ephesians 2:19

and so, what do you say to those parents?

say that you’re praying for him, for them, and then do it. pray that God meets him in the pig’s pen and brings him home.

because really, at the end of the story, the Father is running out to meet the prodigal son with open arms. then He celebrates with him and welcomes him home.

And he arose and came to his father. But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion, and ran and embraced him and kissed him. And the son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’ But the father said to his servants, ‘Bring quickly the best robe, and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet.23 And bring the fattened calf and kill it, and let us eat and celebrate.  For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.’ And they began to celebrate.” Luke 15:20-24


xoxo-kimberly renee

ps:*just some random thoughts on a tuesday evening…not that i’ve been annoyed by people saying the wrong thing. nothing personal or anything.*



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